This is a long one
So a little backstory I have had two of the four animals I'm going to be referencing for one 9 years Mac, and Zeke, for 7 years. The two new additions to my family came over the past two years. One cat was purchased for my mother for mother's day last year, and another I rescued from a lady that I work with I needed a home for an abandoned kitten. So Mom's cat is Lucifer. She named him that because when he was a kitten he would tear her up and be mean to her. The cat that I got his name is Pinky. She named him that as well. He actually adores her and they are best friends my mom and Pinky. So we agreed to essentially just swap cats and Lucifer would be my cat and pinkie would be her cat.
What concerns me is my dog has severe anxiety, so do all of my cats. For the longest time we've tried everything from pheromones, probiotics, play Time interactive. Everything I can possibly do to try to bond with my animals. It's not my first rodeo having the responsibility to care for an animal. So Zeke and Mac both have a medical history with me. When's equals 3 months old he was bitten by a brown recluse spider and the veterinarian we saw a misdiagnosed, did not see the bite. To make a long story short he lost at 75% does the movement of his knee and joint due to venom reaching his growth plates and muscles. So thousands of dollars months of being in a cast and almost a year physical therapy and he's happy pupper. Mac my cat is well faced a similar issue only he had a blocked urinary tract and the vets could not get him to you're an eight, so basically they told me either put him down or spend the money and have a surgery done which essentially reroutes a part of his urethra straight out the back just like a female. So I did not take the advice of the emergency vet and put my animal down, I spent the money the next day and went to the veterinarian and have him fixed up. He spent quite a bit of time with me as well while he was getting better. Our relationship had not been that great. Out of the three animals that I had Zeke included, Mac was always hateful, you would hiss and scratch guests girls that would come over and stay. Even did it to family. But after his experience he was sheltered on my lap basically the entire time that he was recovering.
At that time when Zeke and Mac we're both going through their issues I was working a retail job almost 70 hours a week living by myself. So they had a lot of alone time and didn't have too much free time with me so I tried to spend as much of my free time with them. Things didn't go great at that job after 6 years and I decided to leave and after failed engagement I decided to move back home to start saving money and find a better job. During this process I was severely depressed drinking and anxious all the time. It took me four years to get out of my depression. After moving back home, it was nice because the animals had a little bit more room to run around. Sadly one of my other cat's passed away due to renal failure, and we were left with just seek and Mac. That's when the top portion of this long text post is about. So Lucifer and Pinky and her the situation and as kittens they are kittens LOL I don't really know how else to put it they were fine their normal cats they played like normal cats. As they all grow together they form their little bonds and clicks, they do the same Little things to each other. Zeke was literally raised by cats he was a pup with two older cats in a household.
So I'm still working quite a bit, anywhere between 40 to 56 hours a week, and over the past year it just seems like my animals are afraid of me or scared of me for some reason. I thought it was anxiety on their part and my part, I still suffer from anxiety and I know animals can vibe off of our vibe and know how we're feeling. I have tried everything from feliway pheromone, giving seek probiotics from Purina at the vet had me try, to help ease his anxiety she also put him on gabapentin for comfort for his joints and for anxiety as well. Now Mac is the exception out of the bunch. Mac is glued to me 24/7 when I'm around. He's always rubbing on me laying on me and wanting to cuddle. Sometimes it's too much LOL but I love the little guy. Zeke just seems that he's ready for something almost every second like something is about to happen. Anytime I get up stand up move he jumps up immediately like what's going on where we going on what's going on and that's kind of what prompted me to go to the vet with him and talk about that with her. Now in the house I am the one who gives the medications, I am the one who puts on the heartworm stuff's, we use revolution. Pinky and Lucifer welcome to me when they want to but it's strange. We have feliway diffusers and spray in every room in the house oh, they have multiple litter boxes they have multiple sources of food and water, they have a plethora of toys, interactive toys and plenty of places to get cozy. Pinky has dew claws, it's even rarer because he actually has one nail instead of two where he should have two claws, which means I have to clip his nails at least every six weeks to prevent them from growing in and hurting him. He doesn't like me enough for me to put revolution on him more or less take and try to clip his claws.
I just want to know if there's anything that I'm doing wrong or if there's anything that I'm projecting or if there's anything I can do to you know allow my animals to be comfortable around me. I want to be able to pet Lucifer without him throwing his back acting like he doesn't want to be touched. Or just pinky taking a look at me in bolting across our rooms thinking that I'm always out to get him. I just need some advice and some help I've talked with my vet I've searched you to Google, and now I'm coming to the Reddit community I know it's a lot to read but if you made it as far as appreciate it and any advice you could give would be truly appreciated
Tldr: I have three animals who I feel are scared to be around me or anxious to the point a fear when I'm not around and I have a feeling it's affecting them just as bad as it's affecting me. Making me feel like I'm not a good pet owner and honestly person.
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